Self Care is about simplification and being an essentialist. What you need to know about Self Care is that without it, the world is growing more suicidal, more diseased, stressed and violent! Without it, you live on edge, empty, scattered and unclear.
The thing is, in order to accomplish all that you want, you somehow feel you must give up your own needs as compensation for that. I’m guilty of this too. However I’ve grown to learn that without self care, love and respect, through rituals and boundaries, I run on empty, get sick and hit a wall quickly.
I have been guilty of running on empty, quick fixing and all of the human things that many people suffer from as a result. We all have weaknesses and floors. The difference is, productive people hone in on their best self. Their faults and floors become so insignificant because their life is focused around their goals.
How you actually accomplish those goals is with a great deal of ambition firstly, but secondly, as I mentioned first, is by becoming an essentialist. To get really sharp and powerful to cut through any red tape around anything you want to achieve in life, be it to become an author, achieve so many figures in the bank or overcome anything at all…you must give up all other pursuits.
Goals cannot be reached without the essential element of self care. You cannot look after yourself by doing “everything” and pleasing “everyone”. This I have learned. I just finished writing and publishing two books in 4 months. The first (my third physically published book) took 3 months from start to finish (in my hands) and the second took under a month!